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Walk Through the Book of Esther: Chapter 7

Welcome back Beautiful,

As we continue on our journey through the book of Esther….

Once again if you haven’t read this chapter, chapter 7 please do so now.

“Tell me what you want, Queen Esther.  What is your request? I will give it to you, even if it is half the kingdom!”

Queen Esther replied, “If I have found favor with the king, and if it pleases the king to grant my request, I ask that my life and the lives of my people will be spared.  For my people and I have been sold to those who would kill, slaughter, and annihilate us.  If we had merely been sold as slaves, I could remain quite, for that would be too trivial a matter to warrant disturbing the king”  Esther 7:2-4

OK Wow this is a little heavy, I don’t know about you but WOW, I don’t know if I could be so calm when I knew the man sitting across from me eating and drinking with us the King and Queen was plotting to kill my entire race.

Now there are really two things that we can learn from Queen Esther in regards to our relationships.

The first one is that Queen Esther didn’t freak out and lose control.  She didn’t let the Drama of what was happening to her and her race get in the way of her stating her request.

Most women feel or they think they know that men don’t like emotional women.  So one of the problems or issues that becomes a problem in relationships is that women will suppress their emotions down, deep down until when some little thing a man does upsets us we blow it out of portion.  And then the men we love get all defensive and tells us we are too emotional.

Now the problem with this is; this then becomes a vicious cycle.

What the men are really trying to tell us…is they don’t want the drama.  They do want us to show emotion. But not the DRAMA!

THEY LOVE THAT WE EMOTIONAL CREATURES!

They want us to cry at movies, laugh hard at Fluffy.

They want us show much we love them and how much we care about others.

What they don’t want is for us to become all freaked out over the little things because we didn’t tell them last week that something bothered us.

Let’s look at what Queen Esther did was she formed a plan.  She thought about what she was going to do and how she was going to do it.

When she planed the banquet for the King and Haman she knew that she would be better received if she gave a beautiful banquet with lots of food and wine, the man in her life would listen to her and then and only then could she lay out what was going on.  She didn’t go off on wild tangent, she didn’t cry, scream or throw things.  Which I am sure none of you have ever done.

What Queen Esther did is the example we need to follow.

Men want to know how we are feeling, what we are going through.

I for me my husband will ask me how my day was until I give him a real answer.   I can’t just get away with “oh it was good”.  He truly wants to know how my day was. He wants the details of my day.  He looking to where I am at emotionally.

So when the King asked Queen Esther what she wanted he really wanted know what was going on inside of heart and mind.

So when something awesome happens to you tell your man.

When something not so awesome happens to you tell your man.

Don’t keep up all bottled inside.

When something happens that you feel you need to tell your man or it will be pushed down inside.  Take some time to pray first, ask God what He wants from you.  Do you let it go or this something that needs to be addressed? Really ask this honestly, if God let’s you know that He will work on your man in this area then you need to really let God take care of it.

Then when the time is right talk to your man, let him know how you feel.

Which brings us to the second lesson we can learn from Queen Esther.

Timing: 

Timing with men is critical in having the awesome relationship you want.

When you have something on your heart and you have prayed about it.  Also ask God when would be a great time to talk about it.

Bringing up something that your man did that bothers you at 10:30 at night or when he is trying to get ready for work is not best time to talk.

You can ask him (but do not say “We have to talk” this code for we are going to break up)

You can say hey at dinner there is something I would like to discuss with you would that be OK?

Talking about problem or just a little thing that needs to be discussed having food and drink to go along with that conversation is a great way to get your point acrossed.  Now if it something big you need to talk about making him his favorite meal would be awesome!

Recapping:

  • Men want us to be emotional, what they don’t want is all the drama and craziness that comes out when push down our emotions.
  • Feed you man when you want to discuss something with him
  • Pray always pray to see if it some issue needs to be discussed or if it is something that you can just give over to God.
  • Cry at sad movies, laugh at funny jokes, (especially the ones he tells) Men want to see and need to see our emotions.

Remember You are The Daughter of the Most High God!!!

XOXO

Terra

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