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Breaking Free! How To Let God Of The Victim Mindset

Releasing Your Strongholds….

Do you feel like you have been trying to move forward but you are just stuck?

Have you been stuck for a few months?


I don’t know if you are anywhere you want to be but for me, it had been stuck for years. I felt like I was in bondage for years. I spent so much time praying, searching and more searching….

I was waiting for my breakthrough and I felt like it was never coming.

And then one day I had a huge Shining Moment from God…

(Ok so the Red Sea didn’t part)

I was addicted to being the Victim.

Yet I was playing the victim

And that didn’t sit well with me.

I mean it is hard to accept that I was playing the victim and that is why I wasn’t getting what I wanted out of life.

I was holding myself back in so many areas of my life.

I knew what I wanted…

I mean I suppose that I always had known what my soul wanted.

I have been spoken to,

Spoken over from God with all the gifts and talents God has given to me.

I have always known and here I was still not going after my goals.

Still keeping myself is the same place I was last year, and even last week.

I was sick and tired of it.

And yet I was still praying and still seeking.

Seeking for the Magical Answer.

Then one day I was listening to Molly Sapp and I had this Shining Moment from God …

I was in seeking mode and not in a finding mode.

I was playing the victim while still in the seeking mode I didn’t allow myself to arrive at where I wanted to me.

Because it was just easier to hold on to the drama.

It was just easier to hold on to how easy my life was without actually doing the work. And if I was perfectly honest with myself was addicted to seeking, doing all these classes and signing up for more training. But over time I began to notice that I keep seeing the same thing and hearing the same thing over and over.

I was like I am done.

Then the Shining Moment Time:

I was seeking and seeking and not actually finding what I need.

I began to see, whoa wait a minute I know this stuff. I know what to do.

So, I had to let go of the victim mindset.

I had to trust that God Is Big Enough to Finish what He Created Me to Do.

Then I had to take the leap …

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I had to let go of why I wanted to stay in the victim mindset, why I was still hanging on to the strongholds of my life.

Let me tell you it was way to easy for me to just let my husband take care of everything.

You see the thing is I truly thought there would be some parting of the skies and God would come down and let me know what I needed to, and I would have all this motivation and be excited to write every day. I would feel like exercising every day.

However, the truth is …

There was no parting of the skies and the message from God?

It was a soft whisper.

A soft shift in the Force.

I know what your thinking, but I don’t know how else to describe it.

I was like the energy around me softly and quickly shifted around me.

God whispering to me

“It is Time”

(Ok I will stop with the movie metaphors)

But it is true there was this shift in my life and I choose to ignore my feelings and realize that I would never feel like going after my dreams because I was playing the victim.

Now I would love to tell you that you accept the hard truth that you are playing the victim and you choose to be where you are right now that all the sudden you will be filled with tons of motivation and tons of confidence to do the things you need to do, but no it is the small changes in your life.

It is the small faith you must listen to God’s voice as He wishers softly to you to let you know that yes, it is your time.


Stop playing small.

And starting to believe that God is more than big enough to complete His work in you.

“And I am certain that God, who began the good work within you, will continue his work until it is finally finished on the day when Christ Jesus returns.” 1 Peter 1:6

It is time to step up believe that you can’t screw it up?

Because God places this gift and this dream in your soul.

Your Soul.

So, it is right now the time to get over your own issues and cross that line, to step into who God created you to be.

When you start to set your mind on what God wants you to think about instead of being addicted to the drama and playing the victim you can do amazing things.

The Strongholds and the Bondage will drop away.

The chains will be broken.

You will see a shift.

We know that all the strongholds and the bondages can be cast down, you can transform your life.

“And be not conformed to this world; but be transformed you by the renewing of your mind, that you may prove what is that good, and acceptable, perfect, will of God” Romans 12:2

When we start thinking about the things God wants us to think about there won’t be this big monumental moment. It is all the little moments in your life. It is all the decisions that you have made that have brought you to this time. And you realize that at this moment in time you don’t want to be where you are at. And that you chose to be here and if you chose to be here than you can choose to be somewhere else. You can change your story your life.

You can become the leading the Lady of your own life.

You can become the Queen of Your Life.

Trust and let go.

I had to stop playing the victim in order to truly get what I wanted out of life.

I had to trust in God that yes, I do have gifts and talents that God placed in were for me and no one else can do what I do.

That I can’t mess it up.

I can’t mess up the message that God wants me to share with the world.

I have to trust God that my dreams are something that are totally ok to have.

My dreams of becoming a best-selling author.

My dreams of helping millions of women around the world.

For them to know what the truth of what God has for them,

It is time to trust my soul, my soul that will no longer stay quiet.

I am finally allowing myself to embrace the Queen within.

I am going to step forward in the force.

Step forward into the role God created in me.

So, what about you?

Are you still playing the victim?

Does this make your life easier?

To stop playing the victim you must first acknowledge it….

Which I know I am preaching to the choir is so hard to do.

But to know if you are playing the victim instead of the leading lady is to look around you.

Are you where you want to be?

Is your life going in the direction you want it to?

If you answered no, then you are being the victim instead of being the Queen of your life.

Now it is totally ok and totally normal.

And you can break free from this and have the dream life you have always wanted.

You beautiful Queen can have the freedom you crave.

Just a couple of Tips because I know first hand that it is way easier to say than do.

Your Life Story:

How is your victim story severing you –

Ok, so this is the hardest step … and really take time to do this. It may be over the course of a few days as new things start coming up. You will need to be honest with yourself. Dig deep and pray for God to show you how this victim story has been helping you and why you want to be where are.

Now your first reaction might be ….

“It is not serving me”

“it is not helping me.”

“I don’t think I am being the victim”

But when you become really honest with yourself and dig deep down then yes you will start to see why you are holding on to being the victim.

So really take time to do this. Spend time with God and figure out how your victim story is severing you. Ask God to help you let go of what you need to let go. Pray that He will help with the healing process that needs to take place.

It’s All Their Fault …

Who are you blaming your issues in your life?

Your mother?

Your husband? An ex?

Your co-workers?

The thing is you are only responsible for you, not anyone else.

And if we are blaming someone or something for what current life we will not be able to step into the life God has for us.

When we are breaking the stronghold on our souls of living in the victim mindset we have to let go of a lot of blame.

We are responsible for our own life and it is ours to own.

When we forgive and release others from blaming them for our life, it helps us take back our power.

And when we step into our full power that is when you can step into the life you have wanted.

You can step into the life God created for you.

Claim Who You Are

You are the Daughter of the most High God!

So be careful what you claim.

When you think about all the things that have happened to you, though maybe be bad, you must speak life into your Life.

“For the Scriptures say, “If you want to enjoy life and see many happy days, keep your tongue from speaking evil and your lips from telling lies.” 1 Peter 3:10

Now their may be people in your life that have hurt you.

Now in no way, I am going to down play that.

However, what you can do is start today.

Day 1 of the rest of your life …

You can start by saying ….

I am the daughter of the Most High God.

My life is mine and chose to live it to the fullest.

Today is going to be an awesome day.

This really does help with looking forward to the day.

The more you let go and let the healing begin, the more freedom of the life we want to start to come to life.

By stepping into your power, and creating your life one day at a time, you will become happier and more fulfilled.

You can let go of the victim mindset, all things are possible and remember

You are the Daughter of the most High God.



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